Being a Mom of 2
When we were pregnant with Lynlee, I didn't really worry about how it was going to go when we got home until we were on our way home. As we are wheeling out of the hospital I started thinking, "What are these people thinking, they are letting me out with this baby and I don't have a clue what to do!" But it wasn't long before things started to click at home and we had our routine. I had her in March and we just sat and stare at each other for about 5 months straight. I loved every minute of it!
Then when we decided to have another baby, I thought things would go as they did when I brought Lynlee home. It might be hard at first but things would eventually click into place. Well... that's not exactly how it went. I think I may have cried every day for the first month, and I had help!! I kept worrying myself into a frenzy. "What would happen when I don't have help!" Lynlee constantly needed my attention at the SAME TIME Kyndall did. Lynlee was pushing the limits to see what she could get away with and spending more time in time-out than ever. I felt like I was not being as patient as I should be. I immediately decided we were having NO MORE children!
I talked to my sister-in-law shortly after I had Kyndall and said, "How do you do it?" She assured me it would get better. I got these same assurances from other people as well, but I had a lot of trouble believing them. Lynlee was a lot of help and LOVES her baby sister but also wanted her mommy time as well and I didn't feel like I could give Kyndall and Lynlee all the attention they both needed.
But as time went by (faster than I imagined it would) I got used to splitting my time. And guess what? Things started to click into place and we have a routine. Granted, our routine is about to change with me going back to work. But luckily my girls are pretty good about going with the flow. I think they will do really well in their new arrangements for the fall (fingers and toes crossed)!
I am so in love with 2 beautiful girls and I can't imagine my life without either of them. And there may even be a time down the road that I could even imagine... maybe having a third. Who knows?? (Potty training Lynlee may solidify the answer to that question though.)
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I am always needing an extra lap as they fight over who gets to sit with me. We are going through a phase where we can NOT share mommy. They used to get a knee. Now Mommy time is competition time.
You are a great Mommy with really pretty girlies.
I got back in town so I'm probably late to see your new blog but I love the look of it so much!!! Beautiful!!! I am glad that things have clicked into place. Kelly
You're a great mommy Jacquie. I love watching you and Jason with your beautiful girls. I love the new blog design by the way. See you Sunday. ~ Renae
I totally understand about caring for 2 kids. It is hard and sometimes I wonder what I got myself into. I feel like I have very little patience with Caleb. I have called Greg crying and telling him he needed to get home, but I always manage to get over it. I wouldn't change anything about having to kids under the age of 2 at all.
We have talked about how I went through these same feelings when Jason and Andrea were babies. What comes next is when you have grandchildren and you are afraid you have lost that patience, stamina, energy, etc to care for them. I remember Grandy saying to me after she came to help me that she had prayed and prayed for all of that to come back at her age. Well I now know what she was talking about. I am thankful that He has given me what I needed to help each of you with your girls...even 2 and 3,4,or 5 at a time. Thank you for sharing your angels with Pops and Gran. You and Jason are doing a great job of parenting your 2 and you will do just as well with 3. Love ya! Gran/Dorothy
sure looks like/sounds like you are doing an amazing job being mommy to TWO sweet little girls!! believe me... i KNOW it is HARD. I didn't (still don't! :) )have a ton of help with the twins at the beginning and the help unfortunately didn't last long (since my parents live in houston and work full time and hubby's parents work full time, as well as all my friends!). But the Lord has seen me thru... and it's almost been a YEAR. WOW. It's the hardest job ever, but SO rewarding!! Speaking of job- can't wait to hear about your new job!! I'll tell my Austin teacher friends to track you down and love on you! :)
Jac, you are a GREAT mom. There is no perfect answer for any of the questions you may have.... what worked for your mom, MIL, best friend etc may not and probably WILL not be the answer for you. WHY? No one has YOUR kids. You do what is best for you at that moment and then go on. You might do it differently the next time... you might not. And as far as having a third.... my mom always told me I would KNOW when I was done. Boy was she right! :) I KNOW I am done and you will too. Love you friend!
your amazing, I love your heart, and want to cry I miss you so much
I know how you feel, girl!! Being a mom of 2 is SO busy. :) YOur girls are precious and I am sure you are a wonderful mommy! Can't wait to hear about the new job! Congrats! :)
this was so good to read right now. thank you for sharing! i've been thinking so much about these exact things the last couple of months! that last picture completely melts my heart.
If you only cried for the first month, then you did GREAT! I was crying for about 3 months and I only have ONE!!! I think sleep deprivation makes us crazy!But, now that he's almost 6 months, I've already forgotten how hard it was at first.
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